"How To Talk To Your Boyfriend
To Cultivate Deep Level Emotional Attraction
That Lasts Forever!"
Have you ever said something to your boyfriend that instantly put a huge gap between the two of you?
And perhaps you realized it after you've said it...
And it was too late already because the effect of your words was disastrous.
And you wished you could take it back but you didn't know how to, and didn't know what to say and how to fix it, and how to communicate with your man in a way that would bring him close to you instead of pushing him away!
And you just know that the way you currently communicate with your man makes him pull away further and further and you don't know how to change it because you don't know how to communicate with him to deepen emotional intimacy, make him understand exactly the meaning of your message beyond the superficial words, and make him think of you as his forever woman, the woman who gets it.
Do you know that one of the most critical ingredients any man desires to have in a woman, and the thing that makes his woman special and irresistible to him in a way that no other woman can compare with is the woman's ability to 'get it', to touch his heart in a way no one else can?
The Way You Communicate With Your Man Will
Make Or Break Your Relationship!
Read the story below to understand how women
ruin their chances
for a good relationship with the man of their
dreams and ask yourself
whether you recognize this problem in YOUR relationship!
But first, here is what other readers say:
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Elaine,
I
am just writing to let you know
that I came across your site two months ago when the guy I was dating
began to
shut down and withdraw. We were barely two months into a relationship
and I started
panicking big time because he, just like many others before him, had
begun to
spend less and less time with me, and his calls became weekly check-ins
rather
than daily conversations and twice a week dinner dates the way it was
before. I
didn’t know how to talk to him and
how to get him to open up to me. When
I came across your site I was
very skeptical at first, but I thought what have I got to lose? I might
as well
try your advice and if anything I won’t make the bad situation worse;
at least I’d
know my mistakes because it wasn’t the first time that a guy pulled a
disappearing act on me. I
was pleasantly surprised when I started
using your advice on communication with men. Now
we are back to normal. It’s only
been two months since I started using your advice and he tells me that
I understand
him like no one ever did before. He tells me the reason he divorced his
ex wife
was lack of communication in their relationship. He tells me every day
how
wonderful I am and that I am the only person he can share his deepest
thoughts
and even his most embarrassing moments with, knowing that I am there for him
to
fully understand and to support him! Thank
you so much for the wonderful
advice! ~
Zoe, France |
Here
is what happens in a typical
relationship that lacks open communication (true story):
Amber and Bryan met a party. Bryan was every woman's dream – tall, dark
and
handsome. There was something about him that resembled Prince Charming
every
woman grows up dreaming about. Not only that, but he was extremely
accomplished, a self-made millionaire, who yet remained humble,
personable,
charismatic and good-hearted. And the best of all, he was a high moral
person,
and loyal to a fault.
What
else can a girl ask for?
Bryan
was Amber's instant band-aid
on a bleeding wound of loneliness. It's like she instantly filled the
deep void
in her heart. No wonder, she invested herself into him wholeheartedly.
Naturally
wanting to spend as much
time as possible with her newfound love, Amber inadvertently became
deeply
emotionally co-dependent on Bryan.
Here
is how she tells her story:
When
they met he seemed instantly
enamored by her. After their first date he asked to become exclusive.
They
became intimate on their third date, and ever since they got involved
into a
whirlwind relationship that took them on the highs and lows of a typical
infatuation – withdrawal cycle.
The
problems crept up unexpectedly.
See, Amber was very domestic, and at the age of thirty three was very
ready to
settle down and have her first child. Naturally, she began doing things
like a
good domestic woman should, such as buying household items for his
house and
decorating. She ever re-painted his living room to make it the color
she
wanted.
Bryan
was receptive to it at first.
But after a while he became more protective of his space. It felt as if
she was
taking over his life. On the other hand, Amber always had his best
interest in
mind. She was trying to make the place cozier for them.
Ahhhh....
The key word – THEM
See,
in Bryan's opinion, yes, they
were girlfriend and boyfriend.... but not husband and wife....
And
that was when he felt that she
started putting premature demands on him.... like wanting to know where
was at
every given point in time... Getting upset when he went out alone or
with
friends and didn't invite her to come along...
And
the reason he didn't invite her
was that he had started to get annoyed
or irritated with her...
One
time when they went shopping for
Christmas and she picked a dress he ended up buying for her.... and
then he
said something as they were driving back to his house that made her
upset....
and she got so upset out of control that she told him she didn't want
the
dress....
Oh
no! When a man gives you
something, you appreciate it..... it's bad manners to not appreciate
his
effort, his gift....
And
as a woman I can understand that
the problem was that she didn't really want the dress...... well, not
that she
didn't like it.... after all, it was Amber who picked up.... but he
just didn't
see the big picture!
She
wanted more of a
commitment from him.... she became unappreciative
of the things that he
gave her thinking that was what she wanted.... because deep
down she
just wanted to see a higher level of commitment..... and not the things
he
bought for her..... not the luxury vacations he took her on.....
What
he didn't realize was that the
more she got attached, the more she just couldn't see that he was
getting as
invested as she was... and that created discrepancies in the way each
of them
felt in a relationship... and a distance...
And
every time he did something for
her, she got more and more hurt.... But she didn't
know how to
communicate with him about it... she became withdrawn,
refused to talk to
him, left him and did not call him or respond to his calls for days...
but she
still loved him, so after days and weeks of no contact she went
back....
finally hoping that he would somehow pick up on the unspoken
signals....
and give her what she wanted.... but he didn't!
Have
you ever been in a relationship
where no matter what you do or say, it starts to feel that you are constantly
in pain?
And
you know, a relationship is
supposed to make you feel happy.... but all you feel is this constant
nagging pain...
That's
how she felt too...
One
time after a separation she went
over to his house to find that he had bought a new bed.... it was a
queen
size.....
When
she saw it, she immediately
became defensive....
What
she thought was that he DIDN'T
SEE HER in his future! Or else, he would have bought a king size
bed.... see,
it wasn't about the bed... it was that she started reading into
things.... but
instead of communicating it to him she just bottled up her feelings and
they
came out in a very ugly form...... and were intense..... it's as if you
shake a
bottle of sparkling cider and open up the bottle... all those feelings
bottled
up until there was no more room to squeeze them in and when they came
out, it
was an explosion.....
Do
you ever find yourself not
knowing what to say and how to communicate with your man to make him
adopt your
thinking and give you what you want?
A
lot of women who experience this
problem are not
able to sustain and develop
a good relationship, and instead end up in a
break up and heartbroken!
There
was another break up that
followed shortly.....
They
got back together again.... and
this time he wanted to surprise her with a home cooked dinner.....
Preparing
for their quiet evening at
home, Bryan went and bought firewood for the fireplace, new table cloth
and a
new dinnerware set.....
He
spent hours preparing the meal,
he cooked steak to perfection just the way she liked it... he chilled a
bottle
of expensive Champaign, bought a bouquet of roses, her favorite....
made a cake
and whipped the frosting....
Amber
showed up to another one of
her disappointments. She didn't see the effort Bryan had put into
getting
everything ready for her... what she saw was that, knowing perfectly
how much
she loved being domestic, getting household items and kitchenware for
his
place.... he didn't invite her to his shopping endeavors and instead he
went on
his own...
'It's
just a set of plates', he said
to me a lot later in a discussion....
'So',
I said, 'to her it meant that
you didn't see her in the future... it was a sign...
it was an
indication of how you felt about her and how much into the future you
saw
her.... You know, it doesn't matter how good of a steak you cook when
you send
your girlfriend a subtle signal just how much she means to you....'
See,
the problem was that
Amber didn't know how to communicate her feelings to Brian in
a way he
understood....
If
only had she known how to convey
what was in her heart.... they would have been on the same page...
because
Brian did, in fact consider Amber as a future long term partner...
perhaps a
wife... but their consistently poor communication patterns had put a
gap so
huge that they ended up breaking up....
See,
it's just that men and women
communicate differently...
Have
you ever felt that you said
something to your boyfriend and that was taken completely differently
and not
the way it was intended?
Sometimes
it seems like the whole
nature of relationships is designed to encourage you to say the wrong
things
over and over again.
And
it's NOT YOUR FAULT!
It's
just that if you try to avoid
being defensive, then he says you’re being too
aggressive. If you try
not to say anything much at all then he accuses you
of passive-aggressive
behavior.
Ever
wonder about that?
So,
how do we talk to men? And what
do men want us to say, and what not to say?
Not
surprisingly, most relationships
fall apart not because there is someone else he's falling for, and not
because
there is something drastic such as infidelity, betrayal, or something
just as
terrible.
Nor
do we break up with our partners
because of a single argument or a disagreement.
Disagreements
are healthy because no
two people are alike. Learning how to solve disagreements without
hurting
each other, without emotional
withdrawing or backstabbing
passive-aggressive behavior is the real art of
maintaining a healthy
relationship that grows to become a life-long partnership.
If
only men came with instructions,
like a cookbook, with easy to follow recipes laid out that just take a
gentle
bit of tweaking to create something great.
Nothing
can live up to those dreams but.....
I
get asked this over and over, what
exactly do I say to my boyfriend when he says this
and that, or when he
does so and so?
So,
how do you know how to
communicate with your man so that he understands and feels
exactly the
way you feel?
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How do you deal with conflict
and maintain confidence and composure while doing it?
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How do you keep a high level of
respect with your man and not be a push over, while being kind and
gentle at
the same time.... and yet stand your ground?
It's
true that men don't come with
an instructional manual like an HDTV or an iPod, and a learning process
doesn't
happen overnight, and sometimes it takes years and breaking a few
bones, BUT
…..
If
you have read any of my
relationship books, you know that they empower
women to become
the kind of irresistible, mysterious
and alluring woman every
man desires, regardless of their looks,
their job, their money, or
anything else besides knowing how to touch
your man's heart in a way that no other woman can
or ever will.
What
if I gave you specific
examples on what to say when your
man says something hurtful, and how
to say it so that he
understands you, accepts you, agrees with
you, and gives you
respect?
The
level of respect he is giving
you will instantly boost through the roof if
you say certain
things I will show you.....
You
know that for a woman LOVE is
probably the most important thing in a relationship.... but for a MAN
it is
RESPECT that's the most important.... and without respect there is not
love for
a man!
When
you spend some time memorizing
the secret communication techniques
that I am going to teach
you, you will be able to bring your man closer to you every
time you utilize
these secret communication tactics in your relationship,
respond better
during a disagreement, and keep your man from storming off in disgust
and
eventually getting tired with you and leaving you!
Here
is what another reader says:
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Hey
Elaine, Listen,
I have used your advice and it's really worked! I love it! My boyfriend
and I are so in love now, it's crazy. I still can't believe
how much our relationship has changed since I started using your tips.
I can't imagine that I could have done this without you! ~
Jenny, CA, US |
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Elaine M.D, a Dating and Relationship Coach and Author
